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I combine long management experience with a deep understanding of what really drives people.

I am Kaija Alliksaar - coach, trainer and development partner for people, managers and teams.

I help to notice what supports or hinders the implementation of the existing ability, and to move towards greater clarity, self-confidence and more conscious action.

Kaija Alliksaar sitting outdoors with a laptop on her lap, one hand lifted to her hair

I did not arrive at this work through training alone. I came here through extensive leadership experience and my own life experience.

Coach · trainer · 15+ years of leadership experience

My story

I have seen, both at work and in my personal life, how someone can appear to cope well, meet their responsibilities, and achieve results, yet have long been operating on autopilot internally—moving forward more from habit, a sense of responsibility, and pressure than from conscious choice.

I worked for 21 years in an international company and spent more than 15 years leading people, teams, and service operations. I moved from an assistant role into management in less than two years and helped grow a small pilot team in Tallinn into an international service centre with more than 30 employees. I led up to 27 people and two team leaders, and part of the team was at one point based in Finland. During the same period, the company grew from a startup into an international corporation.

At one point in my working life, I came close to burnout. The main reason was not the amount of work but prolonged ambiguity. Expectations, responsibility, and my actual ability to influence outcomes were no longer aligned. Eventually, I felt that I could not continue in the same way.

Kaija Alliksaar in a white blouse among tall grasses and yellow flowers, hand raised, gaze lowered

There have also been periods in my life when I carried significant responsibility both at work and at home, raising two children largely on my own and trying to keep everything around me functioning. On the outside, I coped: the work got done, people were cared for, and the home stayed together. Internally, however, I was in a constant state of readiness.

I initially came to coaching because I wanted to become a better leader. I learned to truly listen, allow pauses, and ask questions that do not give people ready-made answers but help them hear their own. This changed both my leadership and the way I understand people and change.

I have seen, both as a leader and in my own life, how highly capable people cannot always use everything they have within them. Not because they lack skill or will, but because pressure, old roles, and habitual responses begin to guide them more than conscious choice.

MY GREATER MISSION

So that people don't live a smaller life than they really want and are able to.

This does not mean that everyone should want to achieve more. This means that fear, tension, old roles or automatic patterns would not decide for a person how much he dares to choose, contribute, be visible or shape his life.

I want to help people rely more on what they already have: clarity, self-confidence, responsibility, creativity and the ability to make choices that are really suitable for themselves - both in private and professional life.

My work connects

International management experience

A practical understanding of how to connect results, people development and team performance in a constantly changing work environment.

Teams and working conditions

How leadership, collaboration patterns, clarity, and working conditions affect people's ability to exercise their potential.

Self-leadership and patterns

What starts to guide the behavior of a person, manager or team when they consciously want to act differently.

Positive psychology

Not just what holds back, but what one wants to create in its place: strengths, meaning, inclusion, self-confidence, and greater well-being.

Identity and internal parts

Who a person has learned to think of themselves as and what internal parts try to protect them or want to move forward.

Practical application

Understanding and tools to help new choices make their way into everyday life, management and collaboration.

My approach

I don't look at the person or the team as a problem that needs to be fixed. I look at the patterns and habitual responses that have helped me cope in the past and help me notice if they are still supporting movement in the desired direction now.

We are not left only to understand what has been. We also bring to light the strengths, opportunities and desired future and create practical steps to help move towards it.

What does trauma awareness mean in my work?

In my work, a trauma-informed approach means that I do not treat the person's reaction as a mistake or weakness. We work at a safe pace, with clear boundaries and respecting people's autonomy. In coaching and trainings, no one has to share personal experiences more than they want to.

Trauma-informed coaching is not a diagnosis or treatment of trauma. I work in the framework of coaching and training and recommend therapeutic or medical support if necessary.

Education and training

EducationEstonian Business School - Bachelor of Business Administration, BBA, 2000-2005
Certifications
Neuroscience Coach Certification - EfficientCoach.com, 2025
Trauma Informed Positive Psychology Practitioner - The School of Trauma Informed Positive Psychology, 2025, 30 ICF CCE units
Hypnotherapy Training - The Mental Wellbeing Company, 2025, 100 hours
Somatic Trauma-Informed Coaching & Leadership Certification - The School of Trauma Informed Positive Psychology, 2023-2024, 40 ICF CCE units
Solution-Focused Coach Training "The Art and Science of Coaching" I-IV - Erickson Coaching International, 2017-2018, 128 ACSTH hours
High Performance Team Coaching - Erickson Coaching International, 2018, 21 hours, 14 ICF CCE units
Further training
Narcissistic Abuse Specialist - The School of Trauma Informed Positive Psychology, 2024, 80 hours, CPD
Foundations of Psychology - University of Tartu, 2020
Vaikuseminutid Mindfulness Course, 2019
LanguagesI work in Estonian, English and, if necessary, Finnish.

Let's see together what the next step could be.

If you're looking for support for yourself, start with a free 30-minute clarity talk. If you want to discuss the development needs of a manager or a team, let's see together which form of cooperation might suit your organization.